It’s a long time I have not posted anything here. The reason is easily
predictable. Last written post (Not copy Pasted) was written when I was not in
Job. Now I understand the meaning of “Students Life Is Golden Life”.
These days I am not getting time for even myself. I remember the time when I
was in College. We had no restriction of time; actually we had no restriction
for anything. Whatever we wanted to do, we did, either it's a Class bunk for no
reason or for a reason like trip/tour etc. Those days we were having
everything, the only guilt was; not supporting our family economically; rather
we were taking money from them. But now I am in job, the only thing which I am
getting now is money, rest all is gone. Any way it’s the normal life. We born,
we start from KG's then SS then College and then a good
job.
The other side effect of getting a job (specially a software
job) is that your belly will be visible when you wear a T-Shirts.
You will not get time for you hobbies.
So above description states a few basic side effects of getting a
job. But that is not all. The biggest one is something else (at least for me as
of now).
I stared my career as a trainee/Intern. After few months of
getting job my mom started asking me about my marriage. The questions were
simple but the answers were very complex (same as our university papers).Qu-
When you are planning to marry? What type of girl you want? And many other
question related to this topic. That time it was easy for me to answer. My
answers were “I am not settled, let me get settled first; Let me get some
proper salary package; Then only I will think of my marriage".
But real problem has begun now. My training got completed on
11-May. I was also offered a good package of 3.6L/A. But my mom was
silent. But I could feel the storm behind that silence. I knew the
reason. My mom and My Dad were planning to come to Bangalore. They had to go to
Rameswaram, Tirupathi, Kanyakumari etc. So the ticket was booked for 27-May.
Finally they reached Banglore on the expected date. Those days I was very busy
in one of my project. So in week days they did not get time to ask much on the marriage
topic. And in weekends we were out for Some Location (Tirupathi, Rameswaram
etc.). After that my dad returned back. Every day my dad was calling my mom and
asking for my choice of girl. So my Mom started asking me.
This problem is the biggest side effect of getting a
Job. This Side effect, affected many people. After my dad returned home,
there were around 40-50 people reached him for my marriage in just 2 weeks. The
people who are close to my family, they are saying ‘we have already seen a good
girl for Ajit'. And as people are approaching my dad, he is putting pressure on
my mom and as a result she is putting pressure on me.
And at the last whole pressure is on me indirectly.
Now it can be also asked that why I am not telling my choice.
Honestly saying I do also not know how to get a girl of my choice. I thought a
lot but did not get any proper answer. I know what type of girl I should marry.
But I am not getting any criteria to find that girl.
Because the entire requirement is software related.
Here I am listing the features:-
1. She should be down to earth.
2. She should be intelligent (She should really be; not she should
think that she is)
3. She should be understanding
4. She should know how to respect every one specially elders.
5. She should be versatile (i.e. she can adjust into my family
culture and also different situating which comes unknowingly in the life.)
6. She has a thinking to live as family (My family definition
include My Mom-Dad and Sisters not like only Husband-wife and children).
7. Along with this she should be smart (Smart thinking, smart
dressing (Indian), and smart by looks ).
8. We are a village cultured family so she should be ready to
adopt that also.
These are a few qualities, but the problem is; there is no
parameter to judge these qualities. Now, what I will say to my family. Any way
I tried to tell these qualities to my mom. lets see what happens.
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